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Post by Heavensdaughter on Aug 21, 2003 22:52:19 GMT -5
Lisa,
At your suggestion I read this post, and my throat closed up and my eyes welled up- I felt full of anger and frustration for you- and such sadness. I think the whole situation is unfair, and have been there partly- luckily never arrested, but did lose alot of myself, alot of material things, and a really good credit history - I did however, gain several debts due to my ex, which I am still getting calls about, which I can't pay, and it's not a fair situation. So I feel for you and you are all in my prayers.
Melissa
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Betty
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Post by Betty on Aug 21, 2003 23:28:23 GMT -5
Lisa hon Please go get a good attorney(if you can't afforord one ask the court they will appoint) and then the two bone heads(cops) who steped way over the line report them to their boss also make sure you have documentation pictures of you injuryes and doctors report ---- oh i know how you feel i was pick up for driveing with no driver licesons and then my husband lost it so he ended up in the same place we both got out on bond in a few hours that was one long day
Praying for you Betty
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Post by rickandkryss on Aug 22, 2003 10:10:01 GMT -5
Kris! Thank you sister. I am so sad and mad at the same time. I should have known this guy was too good to be true!! Now another issue to get over......I know God takes a bad situation and turns it to good. I am anxious to see what it is going to be. I am trying to keep a good attitude about everything. Love and hugs, Lisa Just a thought, seeing how we kind of have had the same scenario with your ex-hubby and my hubby. Would if this was the way you two can get back together but in a better light? How is he doing by the way with his little situation? Maybe this is going to change how he feels about that, ya know what I mean? I am praying either way though ;D
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Post by rickandkryss on Aug 22, 2003 10:13:51 GMT -5
i will keep you in my prayers and esp. your daughter. what those cops did was wrong - point blank. she should have not been made to witness such recklessness and cruelty on their part. i'm truly sorry you are going through this with your husband. i wish i had better words to say - just know you're in my prayers. God bless and keep you! PS -- get pictures of the facial damage and keep any ripped clothing. look i'm not a person that's sue happy, and don't recommend that, however you may need to "prove your reality" in court. I agree, that is very important. Also see if any neighbors witnessed it and could back your story. Curious, if you could get a hold of your hubbys record, maybe this has happened before?
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Post by Panther on Aug 22, 2003 12:11:34 GMT -5
Lisa, At your suggestion I read this post, and my throat closed up and my eyes welled up- I felt full of anger and frustration for you- and such sadness. I think the whole situation is unfair, and have been there partly- luckily never arrested, but did lose alot of myself, alot of material things, and a really good credit history - I did however, gain several debts due to my ex, which I am still getting calls about, which I can't pay, and it's not a fair situation. So I feel for you and you are all in my prayers. Melissa Dear Melissa, Thank you for reading my thread and keeping me in your prayers. I appreciate your kindness. Sorry to hear what you have gone through too- let me ask you, what this the same kind of guy I am dealing with......one that took serious advantage of you financially? Blessings Lisa
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Post by Panther on Aug 22, 2003 12:14:10 GMT -5
Lisa hon Please go get a good attorney(if you can't afforord one ask the court they will appoint) and then the two bone heads(cops) who steped way over the line report them to their boss also make sure you have documentation pictures of you injuryes and doctors report ---- oh i know how you feel i was pick up for driveing with no driver licesons and then my husband lost it so he ended up in the same place we both got out on bond in a few hours that was one long day Praying for you Betty Hi Betty, Thanks for reading my thread. Sorry to hear you and your hubby had to take a visit to that awful place. That was clearly the worst experience I have ever had in my life. And you're right, it was one long night. I have never been so exhausted and humiliated- ever! I dont know what happens in court, have no exp. in this area at all. Blessings Lisa
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Post by Panther on Aug 22, 2003 12:16:28 GMT -5
Just a thought, seeing how we kind of have had the same scenario with your ex-hubby and my hubby. Would if this was the way you two can get back together but in a better light? How is he doing by the way with his little situation? Maybe this is going to change how he feels about that, ya know what I mean? I am praying either way though ;D You know, I was vaguely wondering about this too. I definitely see a lot of changes in my ex. Maybe you are right.......something to wonder. I think me and you should keep in touch either here or on email like we were doing before.
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Post by Panther on Aug 22, 2003 12:20:51 GMT -5
I agree, that is very important. Also see if any neighbors witnessed it and could back your story. Curious, if you could get a hold of your hubbys record, maybe this has happened before? Funny that you ask that, as a matter of fact, I DID find out more info about his background. I have known him as a friend for the last couple of years before we got together, but he had just moved to Florida from Washington. Sometimes you think you know somebody and then you really don't. I happened to come across his divorce papers while sorting out some things and putting them away. He was DEFINITELY trying to take advantage of his ex. It put things in a different light. I snooped (I don't usually do this, but I could not help myself under these circumstances). I found another letter from an ex accusing him of taking her for $5000. All this info. backed up my suspicions. My stomach dropped at this point and I felt really sick......
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Post by rickandkryss on Aug 22, 2003 16:05:40 GMT -5
Alright so your on to something here. Now what you need to do is to keep digging for info and even possibly getting a hold of these girls. Check his record also, you just might be able to press charges on him. I have heard of women doing this and suceeding. Not to mention with this in mind it will also help your case and the situation with the police using force. We definately need to keep in touch like we were, I am available at all times to you, just let me know. Strangly though, I really do just have a feeling about you and your ex, I really hope this is the case and that it will be beyond your wildest dreams this time around. You deserve that and so much more. Keep in touch. Let me know if i can offer any suggestions also about the situation with the police and your hubby.
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Post by heart2heart on Aug 22, 2003 20:59:23 GMT -5
Lisa, I am so sorry that you have had to endure this !!! How awful !!! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter right now... I am sorry that you are just now finding out about the past doings of your husband... (sometimes a little snooping is necessary for the protection of your family) It was really awful how you were treated, you certainly didn't deserve to be treated that way by either your husband or by the law officials.... I was getting a chuckle out of the last couple of responses though..... sometimes ex hubbys can be so nice !!! (read my other posts sometime and you can see that i am in sort of the same situation you two are!!!!! LOL) You keep the faith hon,,, God works in mysterious ways !!! YSIC... heart2heart
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Post by Panther on Aug 22, 2003 22:27:07 GMT -5
Thank you so much! Yeah, I snooped, but it was very productive. When I mentioned an ex girlfriend got taken for $5000, the thing was they were only together a month--scary Do you have an "ex" situation too? Join the ex club, hee hee. Where can I read your posts about it? My ex an I had been married 14 years and I had been with him a total of 17, we married when I was 19 and I am now 33. Can't seem to get rid of him, I am saying that in a fond manner though. I will keep the faith and pray for the good that God will take out of this lousy situation. Luckily, I haven't heard from my present husband..less I have to deal with at the present. Blessings to you! Lisa
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Post by heart2heart on Aug 23, 2003 7:19:02 GMT -5
Wow,, they were only together a month?? sounds like a pattern was developing... I'm glad that you didn't have to deal with him yesterday, but keep being strong for you will again have to face him sometime !!!! Oh my story isn't really that violent or anything, i did post a prayer request on the other board about a letter i had sent on a trip w/my ex !!!! We were married for 23 yrs (together over 25)..... we did the owning of a business together thing also.... He just got crazy with the "mid-life-crisis syndrome !!!! alot of hurt, and today he isn't even with the woman he left me for, just got into some heavy alcohol problems, and a huge Pride issue !!!!! I hope that today is a better day for you !! Still sending those prayers up !!! YSIC, heart2heart
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Post by Alison on Aug 23, 2003 18:49:17 GMT -5
Oh Lisa I really feel aweful for you and what you went throu. And for the police to do what they did is unforgiving. How could they have been so mean to treat someone like that when they wasn't doing anything wrong and to do that in front of their child. I would difintaly press charges on them and leave the husband.
I will pray for you. Please continue to post and let us know whats going on. And do remember you do have friends on this board and I would like very much to be included in that list. I know I just started to talk to you and don't know you very well yet but I hope that changes.
So God Bless and take care for now.
Alison
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Post by JaimeNat on Aug 24, 2003 9:02:31 GMT -5
Lisa, I'm so sorry for what happened to you. It must have been horrible, and for your daughter to see it all...you and your family are in my prayers. How long were you with your husband before you married him, if you don't mind me asking? I read your first post on the worn out parents thread and you sounded so happy to be married! And now, to come to this point - I'm so sorry. I hope you can get things straightened up, and definitely pursue filing charges against the cops who did this. That is terrible.
YSIC, Jaime
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Post by kenosis on Aug 24, 2003 23:53:47 GMT -5
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Matthew 21:22 And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive. [/glow]
You are always in my prayers.
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